Did you know that Father’s Day was signed into law more than 50 years after Mother’s Day? Just one of the many fun facts I learned while writing my new Role/Reboot essay about the evolving role of dads (and the inevitable gift of a tie).
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When you blog, you eventually start to get emails from PR companies and folks that are just dying to offer you “fresh content” that “Google loves” and that will “titillate your readers”. Too bad it is all so ridiculous, because otherwise I’m sure my readers would love to be titillated…
Do you need to figure out how to get the opposite sex to notice you?
Do you need an app that makes a miniature keychain book of your photographs?
Do you need any assistance with hair below the neck?
Do you need anything from someone with the gmail handle firstname.lastname@example.org?
Bah. It’s hard to convey to advertisers and PR folks that writing about beauty culture or the cult of celebrity does not mean you will write about their tween gossip or manscaping must-haves.
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1. HISTORY: Imagine you’re 23 and you’re heading off to WWII as a nurse. What do you pack? Slate‘s new history blog has got you covered with a real recommended packing list. Don’t forget your homemade Kotex!
2. ELLEN: Ellen solves all problems. In this clip, she takes on Abercrombie and their whole “only skinny kids are cool” baloney.
3. ART: Like me, you probably assumed pin-up artistry was historically a male artform. Not so! Three of the most respected pin-up artists were women, who knew?
4. SPORTS: Remember Allyson Felix, the Olympic sprinter? What happens after you win gold and you’ve accomplished all your goals at 26? Grantland finds out.
5. EVEREST: Apparently, Mount Everest is overrun by inexperienced, poorly equipped climbers. National Geographic explores what it’s like to wait in line to hike the summit.
6. MAKE-UP: In this short Thought Catalog piece, Chelsea Fagan explains some of the complex rationales that inform female make-up habits. It’s not as simple, “I want to look hot.”
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Ashley Judd/sexual assault
Catherine Zeta-Jones/bipolar disorder
RA Dickey/sexual abuse
Scott Brown/sexual abuse
Christine Quinn/bulimia and alcoholism
The news has been plastered lately with the celebrity megashare, Angelina’s breast cancer NYT editorial is only the latest. Are they trying to sell books and drum up their fans? Or win elections? Or are they really trying to help people by using their celebrity to shine light on difficult subjects?
My latest on Role/Reboot:
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1. JOURNALISM: This my be my favorite editorial I’ve read in quite some time. From Tim Krieder at the NYT, he writes about uncertainty of stating one’s opinions on the internet: “I felt like the explanatory caption beneath my name on-screen ought to be: PERSON IN WORLD.” This is basically exactly how I feel about everything.
2. STYLE: Ever wonder about Rihanna’s hairstylist? Who is this person? Where did he or she come from? NYMag has got you covered.
3. WAR: In this not at all scientific but very strangely powerful series, soldiers are photographed before, during, and after war.
4. TELEVISION: How to make a good drama that wins lots of awards. Is there a formula for that? Perchance there is and it’s only 13 steps!
5. GEOGRAPHY: Highly difficult, highly addictive, Geoguessr is game where google streetview displays a picture and you try to guess where in the world it was taken. Good luck with Australia vs. Texas.
6. DEPRESSION: Blogger Allie Brosh is back after a long hiatus. This webcomic explains where she’s been, and also does a pretty excellent job at describing depression to those that are not depressed. Play close attention to the fish analogy.
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1. COLBERT: Did you hear Brad Paisley and LL Cool J’s song “Accidental Racist?” More importantly, have you seen Colbert’s rebuttal, “Oopsy Daisy Homophobe?”
2. DOLLS: Man, I still remember Kirsten and the cholera epidemic. Apparently, the American Girls focus is a little different these days (The Atlantic).
3. MUSIC: Insanely talented tween duo Lennon and Maisy cover The Lumineers on Nashville and it is oh so good.
4. GENDER: Sociological Images has a collection of photos of girls and boys surrounded by their pink and blue crap, respectively.
5. PREZ: The President at the White House Correspondants Dinner. My highlight = the joke about Michelle’s bangs.
6. LEAN: Man, this letter from a mom to her 8-year-old daughter just about breaks my heart. The girl asked her mother whether she loved work more than her kids and her mother responds pitch perfectly.
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This week on Role/Reboot I wrote about the the term “role model.” I realized that, in my own head, I have a tendency to hold successful women to a higher standard, expecting them to be on “good behavior” and set the “right example” all the time, and for everyone. There are so many bad-behaving male celebrities, and we never talk abou them as being bad role models. I think in some ways it’s as simple as the fact that there are many more men in the limelight, and so the need for “role models” is not so dire.
We assume that women who seek fame or success should also be moral role models as well. We don’t hold men to that standard. Some of them just want to be rich and famous and don’t give two shits about who they influence along the way. I’m not suggesting that’s a great attitude, only that it’s one we accept from men. Maybe Rihanna just wants to be rich and famous? Being a “role model” has never seemed to be her priority, so we do keep trying to drape her in that mantle?
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1. TAVI: 16-year-olds have no right to be so cool and self-assured. This kid says everything I figured out ten years later about media, feminism, stereotypes, yada yada yada.
2. HEALTH: This American Life is on a roll. Killer piece about the huge upward trend in Americans filing for disability. Why? When? How did this happen? Better question, what do we do it about?
3. ADVERTISING: Sociological Images uses the interesting case of Rolling Rock beer to discuss the appropriation of working class iconography by upper class cohorts for the purposes of “seeming real.”
4. ROMANCE: Nick Offerman + Megan Mullally = Forever. THEY ARE THE BEST, and lucky us, NYMag compiled a history of their love.
5. POLITICS: Just for kicks, cats that look like politicians. Or politicians that look like cats?
6. LGBTQ: Really thought-provoking essay for BuzzFeed about the importance of gay porn, by gay porn performer Connor Habib.
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By request, here’s the complete list of recommended movies and television for the Re-Education Project. Just a reminder, these are not endorsements, or even necessarily “great” movies. I asked the Internet (well, my Internet) for recommendations of movies and TV that are defining, genre-challenging, game-changing, emblematic, problematic, or representative of depictions of women/gender/feminism/sex. I want to contextualize what I currently see and watch with some of their important predecessors, and these were your suggestions. Thank you!
Anything with an asterisk is on Netflix Watch Instant!
- Ozzie and Harriet (1952)
- The Jackie Gleason Show (1952)
- Father Knows Best (1954)
- Leave it to Beaver (1957)*
- That Girl (1966)
- Mary Tyler Moore Show (1970)
- All in the Family (1971)
- Maude (1972)
- The Jeffersons (1975)
- Laverne and Shirley (1976)
- The Cosby Show (1984)
- Golden Girls (1985)
- Roseanne (1988)
- Murphy Brown (1988)
- Prime Suspect (1991)*
- Living Single (1993)
- X-Files (1993)*
- Xena (1995)*
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer (1997)*
- Farscape (1999)
- Girlfriends (2000)
- Alias (2001)*
- Ellen (not the talk-show) (2001)
- Firefly (2002)*
- The L Word (2004)*
- Veronica Mars (2004)
- Damages (2007)*
- Dollhouse (2009)*
- Lost Girl (2010)*
- Morocco (1930)
- Sylvia Scarlett (1935)
- Streetcar Named Desire (1951)
- Calamity Jane (1953)
- Cat on a Hot Tin Roof (1958)
- Breakfast at Tiffany’s (1961)*
- Reflections in a Golden Eye (1967)
- The Taming of the Shrew (1967)
- The Stepford Wives (1975)
- Looking for Mr. Goodbar (1977)
- I Spit on Your Grave (1978)*
- Norma Rae (1979)
- 9 to 5 (1980)*
- Coal Miner’s Daughter (1980)
- The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas (1982)*
- Tootsie (1982)
- Silkwood (1983)
- Yentl (1983)
- The Color Purple (1985)
- Aliens (1986)
- Fatal Attraction (1987)
- Baby Boom (1987)
- Big Business (1988)
- Working Girl (1988)
- Bull Durham (1988)
- Steel Magnolias (1989)*
- When Harry Met Sally (1989)
- Thelma and Louise (1991)
- Fried Green Tomatoes (1991)
- A League of Their Own (1992)*
- Sleepless in Seattle (1993)*
- Natural Born Killers (1994)
- Boys on the Side (1995)
- The Long Kiss Goodnight (1996)
- Jackie Brown (1997)*
- Elizabeth (1998)
- All I Wanna Do (1998)
- 10 Things I Hate About You (1999)
- Introducing Dorothy Dandridge (1999)
- But I’m a Cheerleader! (1999)
- Erin Brockovich (2000)
- Chocolat (2000)
- Riding in Cars with Boys (2001)
- Anita and Me (2002)
- Bend it Like Beckham (2002)
- Whale Rider (2002)
- Mona Lisa Smile (2003)*
- House of Flying Daggers (2004)
- Brick Lane (2007)
- Becoming Jane (2007)
- Caramel (2007)
- Persepolis (2007)
- Juno (2007)
- The Duchess (2008)
- I Spit on Your Grave (2010)
- Easy A (2010)