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Maslow and Feminist Privilege

I first learned about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs in a high school marketing class. The traditionally pyramid-shaped diagram illustrates a psychological theory on how people prioritize their needs. First comes the basics (food, water, shelter), followed by safety, then companionship/ friendship/love, then self-esteem and confidence, and finally self-actualization. In wildly oversimplified terms, Maslow is suggesting people don’t pursue the higher tiers of need until the lower ones are satisfied.

Why am I talking psychology today? A series of comments, essays (like this one from Tiger Beatdown), and really smart friends who make really excellent points are causing me to reconsider what I wrote last week about Hugo Schwyzer. Let me clarify, I still do not, in any way, support the vilification he has withstood these last two weeks, nor do I think the vitriolic tone of his haters is justified.

I’ve been thinking about my feminism, Hugo’s feminism, and other people’s feminism in the context of Maslow’s hierarchy. I’m white, straight, able-bodied and well-educated. I was born into the first three, and the last one is directly related to a familial history of privilege (not money, but race). That’s a whole lot of privilege.

When I think about my personal feminism, I can pretty safely jump the first three tiers of the Maslow pyramid and spend my time worrying about confidence, self-esteem and self-actualization. My basic needs are met. My sense of personal security is intact (in the sense that while, yes, being female I am risk from different types of violence than men, I do not live in a state of fear or in a place where my gender expects violence). My friends and family are present and engaged in my life.

When I write about my own feminist concerns, I write about things like being afraid of math, Barbies and body image, or casually discriminatory comments in the workplace. I write about these things because that’s what’s on my mind, and that’s what’s on my mind because I don’t have to think about finding food, paying my rent, protecting my family, or convincing people that I am a smart, useful person (mostly). I can wax poetic about sexual liberation and SlutWalk with a degree of nonchalance that women of color can’t without confirming hypersexualized stereotypes that persist after hundreds of years.

So, on to Hugo. He has, I’m sure he would admit, even more privilege than I do. Lots and lots of it. I think what many of the haters are expressing (poorly), is resentment that his inherent privileges grants him a leadership role in a movement that is about equalizing the playing field. It’s hard to believe that someone would work towards a movement that would undermine the very advantages that enabled him or her to be successful.

Then there’s the separate question of who gets to speak for who. Part of the fundamental problem is that privileged people like me and Hugo have easiest access to the tools to voice our issues. Tools like English skills, college degrees, internet access, time on our hands to write to you people on the internet. People who are still striving for the first two tiers of the Maslow pyramid don’t exactly have time to blog….

I don’t have answers, but I do know that I don’t believe that privilege disqualifies one from the conversation of inequality. How one tempers one’s privilege, or qualifies it, or cites it in every other sentence or not at all, is a whole big can of worms for another day.

Related Post: Alice Walker on SlutWalk.

Related Post: A guest post on OWS, privilege, and opening up a conversation.

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The Most Self-Aggrandizing Post Yet

I did a little recap post around the new year, crunching numbers on this blog experience, and sharing some thanks with people that have pushed it along.

This is a different post and it took a little more pondering before it was ready to share. This post is about all of the things I’m really proud of writing in 2011. These are pieces that incited some internet haters (including one who hopes I get herpes), linked me up with fascinating people, or sparked some interesting conversations and counterarguments. Most of them are dear to my heart simply because the journey from hazy inkling in my brain to coherent explanation of my world view was particularly long and treacherous, and therefore more rewarding:

The Best Things I Wrote Last Year (in my very biased opinion)

So there you have it. Shameless plugs, all of them, but if you enjoyed reading any of them half as much as I enjoyed writing them, then I’ll call 2011 a big success.

Related Post: The very first post on this blog!

Related Post: The best things other people wrote in 2011, parts 1 and 2.

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Happy Birthday?

I missed my blogiversary! Shows you how much I was paying attention…. Turns out, it was December 22nd! Now you know, and believe me, next year I expect gifts.

Total Posts: 373

Most Commonly Used Tags: gender, body image, politics, Chicago, books, Hollywood, television, Good Men Project, advertising (Sounds about right, eh?)

Categories: Given that this is ostensibly a blog devoted to the Venn diagram of Sex/Gender, Media, and Politics, I’m pretty pleased with these stats:

  • 45% of posts were categorized as “Media”
  • 38% of posts were categorized as “Gender”
  • 24% of posts were categorized as “Politics”
  • 26% of posts were categorized as “Sex”
  • (math should make this obvious, but posts can be in more than one category)

Best Commenters (who receive all the thanks in the world): Sharon, Stephanie, Kim, Lynnette, A Morning Grouch 

Guest Posters (for whom I am eternally grateful):

Related Post: How biased am I?

Related Post: The best things I read on the interwebz, 2011

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Sunday Scraps 36

1. HAIR: I love this essay on Jezebel by Autumn Whitefield about the social and personal implications of short hair on women. Maybe, as she suggests, the expressed male preference for long hair comes from conditioning, not from some sort of inherently biological attraction.

2. WRITING: Gaby Dunn (100 Interviews) explains some of the nitty-gritty, behind-the-scenes of trying to make a name and a living from blogging. Apparently, it’s not as easy as she makes it seem.

3. CHALLENGE: Best of luck.

4. ENVOY: Secretary of State Hillary Clinton named Ellen DeGeneres as a special envoy for global AIDS awareness. Not sure what a special envoy does, but I love these two ladies, so who cares.

5. INK: New York Times has a gallery of science-related tattoos. I happen to know a gentleman with the chemical structure of seratonin on his arm, and another with an anatomically correct skull of a T-rex. Beautiful and educational.

6. WEDDED BLISS: Fun piece from The Frisky about non-traditional engagements involving Jim Beam and mixed feelings on wearing $1,000 diamonds on your finger.

Related Post: Sunday 35 = Lady boxers, Louis vs. Rick, Magic Johnson and more.

Related Post: Sunday 34 = The Phantom Tollbooth, beluga births, race in Hollywood casting.

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How Biased Am I?

I decided to put myself to a little test. I was inspired by Jennifer Dalton’s artsy media analysis profiled on Jezebel. She does some neat visual stuff with the gender breakdowns of talk show guests. For example, she calculated that in 2010, 79% of The Daily Show‘s guests were men. Colbert was even worse, at 82%. Rachel Maddow herself hosted 80% male guests. Yowza.

To be fair, those three shows are politically themed, and is it their fault if politicians are overwhelmingly male? I’d argue that the pundits are reflecting the inequality of the pool, not necessarily promoting the gender gap. We could dig further and ask what percentage of male congressmen have been featured on these shows versus the percentage of female congresswomen. The issue is, there are so few female congresswomen that I doubt we’d even get a viable statistical sample! I’d like Dalton to blow it out further and and see how many of the female guests on Stewart and Colbert were actresses promoting movies vs. substantive players on the national or international scene.

Annnnnywaaay, here’s what I thought I’d do. I have a category over the right sidebar called “Really Good Writing by Other People”. This is what I use when the point of my lazy post is to say, “Go here, read this.” In some capacity, by assigning a writer or blogger that label, I’m doling out Emily-influence points. So… the question is, who is getting Emily points?

I dug through the last 3 months of posts that warranted the RGWBOP label and tallied the gender of the authors to whom I was directing traffic. In some cases, one post included more than one author, so those counted separately. Only one was listed twice (Kate Fridkis at Eat the Damn Cake). There were 56 writers, including a double count for Kate. Here’s the breakdown:

Actually more even than I would have thought, given the Rosie the Riveter icon on the banner….

Related Post: This type of analysis is how this whole blog thing got started, remember?

Related Post: Vanity Fair’s big earners list reflects some craaaazy skewed influence.

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Sunday Scraps 24

1. CHICAGO: @Astro_Ron has been tweeting pictures from outer space. This is Chicago.

2. JOB PROSPECTS: For Lack of a Better Comic tackles the predicament of an English major in this job market.

3. DOMINATRIX: It’s fun to hear Terry Gross say dirty words. Also, this NPR interview with former dominatrix, current college professor Melissa Febos is super interesting.

4. PRETTY BOY: Autostraddle has a piece about the rise of gender bending model superstar Andrej Pejic. He’s got the Bardot look, minus the boobs.

5. RAPE JOKES: As if I needed another reason not to see Horrible Bosses, Feministing itemizes the ridiculous quantity of rape jokes. Male rape and sexual harrassment are hilaaaarious.

6. WRITE: Fun times… plug in a sample of your writing to I Write Like and it’ll tell you who you’re copying. Apparently, I write like Cory Doctorow.

Related Post: Last Sunday

Related Post: Two Sundays Ago

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XKCD Agrees

I’m tired. It’s been a long week. I’ve decided that microwave-made nachos = dinner. At 10:30pm. While I watch Colbert. It’s that kind of day. This week has been dominated by stupid shit anyway, like the whole Abercrombie brouhaha with The Situation, the straw poll in Iowa and pretty much everything Rick Perry. Consequently, this is what I have for you today:

Per yesterday’s post about causation and correlation and epically misunderstood science stuff, xkcd spells it out:

Click to enlarge.

Related Post: This is what happens when I’m lazy and exhausted.

Related Post: Or this.

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Liebster

This is essentially the equivalent of a chain letter. Whatever, in sixth grade chain letters were the shit, so here goes.

Ms. Stephanie at The Conscientious Reader has nominated me for a blogging award called The Liebster. It means “beloved” or “favorite” or “my darling” or something in German (internet translations are disagreeing….anyone speak German?). The idea is to pass the love from one itty-bitty blog to the next, hopefully connecting people with similar content or style.

It’s basically Pay It Forward, in blog form, minus Haley Joel Osment, Helen Hunt, and Kevin Spacy. So, to pay it forward, here are some of my favorite bloggers who have yet to convince the world they should be famous (although it’s only a matter of time):

Kate runs Smart Girls Who Do Stupid Things where she posts awesome stuff like pictures of clouds, recaps of The Bachelorette, and unlive blogs of awards shows.

Emilie writes at I Came to Run, where she talks fitness, body image, eating disorders, etc. She’s the one who did the amazing post about the Special K Challenge.

Emma has a special knack for finding just the most absolutely bat-crazy shit. Seriously, it’s a gift. She compiles it all into a tumblr called Homeless College Grad.

Searah is the founder of the best little sex shop in Chicago, Early to Bed. In her years in the industry, she has discovered the weirdest sex crap ever, logged for your viewing pleasure at Searah’s Museum of Screwy Sex Toys.

So there you you have it, my Liebster nomination list. Ladies, if you’re craving some chain letter love, the Liebster rules follow:

  • Thank the giver and link back to the blogger who gave it to you.
  • Reveal your top picks and let them know by leaving a comment on their blog.
  • Copy and paste the award on your blog.
  • Have faith that your followers will spread the love to other bloggers.

Damn… I need to start reading some dudes…. Anybody have any favorite male bloggers they think I would like?

Related Post: My internet friendship with Stephanie began thusly.

Related Post: And this is how I started following Emilie.

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The 8pm Ban

Every month, GOOD Magazine recommends a 30-day-challenge, “a monthly attempt to live better.” For August, the challenge was to turn off the internet at 8pm. TV-watching was still kosher (thank God), but no blogging, tweeting, Facebook-stalking, emailing, Google Reader-reading, etc. The challenge was put forth on the premise that the average American spends 13 hours per week on the internet. LOLZ. If only that were true. Pre-GOOD challenge, I estimate that, including work, I spend about 65 hours per week online (and I don’t have a smart phone). Jesus…that’s two and a half days of every week.

So last week, I decided to do a test, dipping my toes into the GOOD challenge, without the plunge. For one week, I observed the ban. Here’s what happened:

Step 1: Anxiety – I headed to a yoga class on Tuesday at 6:45. At 6:30, I realized that this was my last moment with the internet for 14 hours. The weight of this realization was crushing. Not really, but it did make me hyperventilate a bit as I thought of all the tweets, blogposts, Youtube videos and Facebook statuses I would miss.

Step 2: Epiphany – Believe it or not, the tweets etc. were right there waiting to be read in the morning. Who fucking knew?

Step 3: Acceptance – I stopped worrying about what was happening on the internet. I mean… I still worried about it, just a lot less than usual. Turns out, the timesucking curiosity that has me hitting refresh every 12 seconds isn’t necessary.

Step 4: Enjoyment – I slept about 30 to 45 minutes more each night. I still watched my shows, but then I turned off the computer and went to bed instead of “catching up” on what I had “missed.” I read more books and magazines. My room was a teeny, tiny bit cleaner. I budgeted my blogging time better since writing late into the night wasn’t an option.

What now? My week is up. Last night, I read a few blog posts before bed. I went to click Facebook–old habits die hard–but I didn’t and went to bed instead. You know what? Facebook was there this morning and not a single goddamn thing had happened. Small changes, amirite?

Related Post: On the other hand, Facebook can be kind of awesome, like in this GQ article about Tokelau

Related Post: Portrait of my advertising day (Featured on ChartPorn)

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Sunday Scraps 22

1. GENDER: Sociological Images caught a great example of gender assumptions in kids products, this one more insidious than most. The boy backpack is for a pilot, the girl backpack is for a pilot’s assistant.

2. COLBERT: Stephen Colbert picked apart the coverage of new health care regulations that cover breast pumps, birth control and domestic abuse counseling. “What’s next?” says the commentator, “manicures and pedicures?”

3. SPORTS: The history of the “high five” from ESPN. Who knew it included the first MLB player to come out (after he left the league)?

4. INTERWEBZ: Debates I often have with myself about arguments on the internet, crystallized in infographic form.

5. PARANOIA: I cackled at this post from The Bloggess about using bananas to scare the bejeezus out of your friends, or random supermarket patrons.

6. LIFE: Big questions? McSweeney’s has all the answers.

Related Post: Sunday 21 = happy married gay people, geeky flowcharts, FNL FTW.

Related Post: Sunday 20 = Ambien, Dubai, playhouses, blood spatter.

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