You know you’ve chosen a particularly thorny issue when people pick it apart from both sides. Hurrah! After a bit of a hiatus (for some logistical and also vaguely undefined philosphical reasons) I am back at the Good Men Project with a piece called “Why I Believe Men Belong in the Feminist Movement.” It’s taking a bit of a beating, but that’s cool, because that’s what writing in the internet is all about!
In and among the crazies, there are some really great comments that are making me rethink a few of the words I chose. Namely “oppressive” and “restricted.” Take a read for yourself and see what you think:
And then there are comments like this: “Feminism is the most heartless and cruel abomination in modern Western culture. Feminists have all the “compassion” for men that Alabama plantation owners felt for African slaves. This includes both the heartless norm, and the very very infrequent exception.”
Related Post: Parts 1 and 2 of my response to Hugo Schwyzer’s recent internet beating.
Related Post: My GMP post on Michele Bachmann and the politics of “Bitch.”
Wage gap? How about the age gap?*
This week on the GMP I attempted to address these crucial dating questions: How old is too old? How young is too young? Incorporating horrifying OkCupid data (i.e. I’m over-the-hill at 23…) and internet lore about finding the sweet spot, I arrived at my definition of my range. I called it “life stage compatibility.” I even managed a 30Rock “Milf Island” reference, so go have a read.
*Kidding… the wage gap is some serious business.
Related Post: Kudret wrote a great guest post about aging into her body and growing more confident.
Related Post: More OkCupid data about how we change over time. This one correlates body image and sex drive.
Today at the Good Men Project I’m covering the exciting world of online dating with five handy rules for happier hunting. Among other things, I address the ubiquitous photobooth profile series, ab shots, how to address your Trekkie love and why online dating is fundamentally unfair.
Related Post: More from the GMP, why online dating (and tech heavy dating in general) leave something to be desired…
Related Post: Hilarious messages from OkCupid + some of the fun findings from OkTrends data
My new piece for The Good Men Project about splitting the check is up! You may recall something similar I wrote here on Rosie Says, but this is bigger and better than ever. The tricky thing about it, I found, was that advice on how to date me doesn’t line up very nicely with how to date other women. Oh, the complexities of dating, so fun!
Related Post: The original Rosie piece on going dutch
Related Post: I’ve been writing a bunch of the GMP lately, on subjects like nostalgia for first date awkwardness and what happens when someone doesn’t orgasm.