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Sports Bra Challenge

Wish I lived in New York so I could attend the Sports Bra Challenge. This sounds so fun and it is so in line with my feelings on exercise and self-confidence. The moments when you’re actively trying to take care of your body should be the last time you should be feeling self-conscious or insecure.

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I don’t usually exercise in just a sports bra. I would tell you that it’s for some practical reason that I don the requisite t-shirt or tank, but 9 times out of 10, the truth is that I’m just embarrassed. I’m often one of the bigger girls in yoga or at kickboxing and stuff shakes when I move around, you know? There’s a little extra around the middle that jiggles when I get going and it’s easier just to cover it up.

Every now and then I do go to yoga in just a sports bra, usually because I forgot a top. At first, all the mirrors psych me out and I get distracted by the softer parts of my anatomy and how they may or may not be hanging over the band of my yoga pants. Eventually, though, the zen of yoga kicks in. The focus it requires to move my body through the air with any mindfulness is enough to make the mirror fade out. Then, usually, there’s a moment where I’m holding some posture I find difficult, and I catch a view of myself sweating and starting to shake, and I look super strong and super focused and the roll of belly that has folded as I twist is suddenly, obviously, completely beside the point.

For me, the point of something like the Sports Bra challenge is to remind myself the reason that I exercise. It is not for the other girls at my studio, nor for the dudes running on the lakeshore, it’s for me. It makes me feel good. It makes me feel like I can do things. It is the enabler for many other things I want to do, like take more walks, hike the Inca Trail, attempt to surf, live in a fourth-floor walk-up.

One of my least favorite celebrity-spotting trends is the criticism we level at women (and shockingly it’s almost always women) about how unkempt they look when they exercise. No make-up, the horror! Sweaty ponytail, oh my! Stretch pants and a bit of cellulite, alert the media! Except, we actually do alert the media. It’s like they don’t understand that constant exercise is the only way these stars stay in the shape we expect them to stay in, and that mascara and hair gel are not the best gym accoutrements.

If you are exercising, then you are an exerciser, whether you look like one or not. You have no obligation to look like anything for anyone, ever, but you especially have no obligation to look like anything for anyone when you’re explicitly devoting time to self-care. Wear what makes you comfortable and able to focus on why you’re there in the first place. If that’s a hoodie and sweatpants, that’s fine. If it’s a sports bra and shorts, do you girl, whatever gets you out here and keeps you moving.

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Williamsburg graffiti

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Rehabilitating the Hoodie

“You’re not going to rehabilitate the hoodie…There are some things that are almost inevitable. I’m not saying Trayvon Martin had a weapon or anything, but he wore an outfit that allowed someone to respond in this irrational, overzealous way. If he had been dressed more appropriately… unless it’s raining out, or you’re at a track meet, leave the hoodie at home.”

Lordy, lordy, lordy. “An outfit that allowed someone to respond in an irrational, overzealous way.” Does that sound familiar to anyone else? Is that not the exact logic victim-blamers use when using women’s clothing as an excuse for sexual harassment, assault, and rape? If she hadn’t been wearing…. If she hadn’t been acting so… If she wasn’t the type of girl who….

Outfits do not cause people to do stupid, hateful, bigoted things. To attribute someone’s irrational behavior to an inanimate object is to deny them agency and self-control. George Zimmerman, Trayvon Martin’s shooter, should be offended. Geraldo’s allegation here is that Zimmerman is a man with no control over his body or his mind. He sees that hoodie, and he just can’t help himself.

And Trayvon, according to Geraldo’s logic, wanted to be viewed as a gangster. Choosing an item of clothing owned by every teenager in America is clearly a window into his desire to appear thuggish, not an indication that hoodies are the comfiest of comfy clothing. My brother is a sophomore in college. He is also white. A quick perusal of his Facebook is an overwhelming barrage of hoodies. These insidious items are everywhere! In every picture where he’s not wearing a basketball jersey or a prom tux, he’s wearing a hoodie. Do you find him suspicious, George Zimmerman? Would you justify an attack on him, Geraldo?

On a more positive note:

This is New York State Senator Eric Adams on the Senate Floor.

The Miami Heat in a tweet from LeBron James.

Oh my! Is that me in a hoodie? Goddamn do I look suspicious!

My brother. What a gangster.

 

 

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Sunday Scraps 49

1. BOOKS: Apparently, the Manhattan mom circuit is obsessed with a raunchy S&M themed series called Fifty Shades. I think they just need to get out more.

2. BIZ: This Harvard Business Review piece has a silly title, but it’s a pretty cool idea. The biggest obstacle preventing women from consistently getting to work in the developing world is lack of adequate menstrual supplies. In swoops Elizabeth Schwarpf!

3. CHICAGO: Anybody who hasn’t lived in Hyde Park may not find this n+1 essay very interesting, but whatever, this is my blog and therefore the only person I need to entertain is myself. Actually, though, it’s quite good and you all should read it…

4. DATING: Retronaut has a series of tips for single women from 1938, including “Don’t talk about clothes or try to describe your new gown. Please and flatter your date by talking about the things he wants to talk about.”

5. HBO: I could not be more excited for the new HBO show Girls (premiering in April). Creator Lena Dunham and cast members are interviewed for the NYT Magazine about comparisons to SATC, onscreen sex, and that whole post-grad wandering phase.

6. TELEVISION: Emily Nussbaum has two things at the New Yorker that you should read right now. 1) A defense of Liz Lemon, and 2) This breakdown of The Good Wife’s approach to gray-area technology and the law.

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The VIDA method

VIDA is an organization dedicated to discussing and promoting women in the literary arts. Every year, they do a little tally to see how some of the most influential literary magazines stack up when it comes to publishing content by women. Here’s an example:

In addition to the Atlantic, Vida graphed the track records of the London Review of Books, Harpers, Boston Review, Granta, and several others. Shockingly, women-authored pieces were outnumbered (badly) in most publication.

Fun game, right? There are three magazines in my house right now, TimeOut Chicago, The University of Chicago Magazine, and Vanity Fair. Just for kicks, let’s see how they stack up, shall we?

Quick note on methodology: I literally just counted bylines of everything with a byline. The “Unknowns” are people have either initials for names for which I couldn’t determine a gender (“Punch,” for example).

Obviously, it’s a ridiculously small samples size that would not pass any statistical measures. The point is to ask ourselves about the publications we read, and the people they choose to publish. That’s not to suggest every magazine should strive for a 50/50 split, only that such an overwhelming display of male bylines by the most prestigious literary magazines in the world should make us all raise an eyebrow. I think it’s particularly interesting to see progressive bastions (like The Nation) that devote immense and admirable page space to sexual equality with such demonstrably unequal bylines.

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Broad Shoulders

We’re in the midst of the inaugural Chicago Ideas Week, and the city is full of exciting people who live here, like Rahm Emanual and Jason Salavon, and people who flew in for the occasion,  like Bill Clinton and Sandra Day O’Connor.

On Monday, I attended the kick-off event, a moderated conversation about American cities, governing priorities, and the modern mayorship. Thomas Friedman hosted, and Emanuel (Chicago), Michael Bloomberg (New York), and Kasim Reed (Atlanta) shared their thoughts.

Emanuel on the big screen, with Friedman, Reed, and Bloomberg

Giddy like an actual schoolgirl, I took a lot of notes. Friedman is, as they say where I’m from, wicked smart, and all three of those dudes can hold their own. A few of my favorites themes:

  • National vs. Local: If there’s anything three big city mayors have in common, it’s a dismissive attitude towards federal politics. Bloomberg pointed out that mayors rarely go on to national office, because “mayors get really good at making decisions.” He added that, as polarized as we are on a national level, “every time you make a decision you lose half of your constituency. Five decisions later, not even your mother is on your side.” Under those circumstances, better to avoid decisions all together. Friedman added, “Does it ever feel like we’re having an economic crisis, and they’re having an election?”
  • Pragmatism: They all pointed out that practicality is not a trait that we cultivate in our national leaders. The pragmatism required of mayors was certainly emphasized (Rahm: “There’s not Democrat or Republican way to pick up trash.”) Bloomberg told a story about a Congressman who said “I’m in favor of the war, but not in favor of funding it.” He laughed, “A mayor would never say that. That’s like saying ‘I’m pro-choice, but not for women.’” The social issues that dominate the national conversation are small potatoes–rather, irrelevant potatoes–next to the tangible concerns citizens raise with the mayor. My house, my job, my kid’s school…
  • Creating an Environment for Success: Education, education, education. Education is an economic issue. Companies don’t want to set up shop in areas without an educated work force, schools where their employees can send their kids, etc. The mayors all made it exceptionally clear that they cannot just create jobs out of thin air. Rather, they can create policies and incentives that encourage business and growth. Chief among them is ensuring an educated workforce. Reed pointed out that he wakes up every day asking himself if a kid with his background in today’s Atlanta (black, public school educated) could be the mayor when he or she turned forty. “I don’t think that’s possible with what we’re offering right now.” Emanuel also noted that there kids today who live “in” the city of Chicago, but for whom the resources and attractions it offers may as well be in Sri Lanka. How many CPS kids have never been downtown? Have never been to the Art Institute or the Field Museum?

There was a fair amount of lockerroom one-upmanship too (Biggest seaport? Biggest airport? Which city sees the most trains? GDP?) but Friedman kept it pretty well in check. One of my favorite phrases from the evening was Emanuel’s description of the mayorship. He called it “the most immediate, intimate form of governing.”

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Sunday Scraps 21

1. JOY: I don’t know who can avoid sniffling at this amazing Buzzfeed gallery of pictures of happy gay couples moments before or moments after they tie the legal knot in New York.

2. TERRORISM: Glenn Greenwald’s Salon essay about the pervasive assumptions about terrorism and Islam (even by the NYT) is really interesting in the wake of the attacks in Oslo.

3. GENDER: I fell a little bit in love with this Good Men Project essay by Brian Gresko about being an occasionally cross-dressing straight man and about how his bouts of beautification helped him meet his wife.

4. MEDIA: NYMag recaps the paywall decision of the New York Times. Apparently, it’s working. Who knew people would still pay for content?

5. GEEK: Flowtown makes awesome graphics, like this one about the evolution of “geeks.” Tech geeks, video geeks, music geeks, gadget geeks…. What kind are you?

6. FNL: Lorrie Moore has discovered a secret: writers love Friday Night Lights. She writes about all the reasons why for the New York Review of Books.

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Oh Happy Day!

You know what’s awesome? Sitting on a miniature bunk bed in the back room of your extended family’s mostly Republican house and huddling over your computer screen watching a live stream of the New York Senate floor as NY ends marriage discrimination. That’s what’s up.

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Books and Book Lovers!

I’m going on vacation on Wednesday, to the Haaaaamptons. It makes me feel less snooty when I emphasize the snootiness of my destination by drawing out the long “A.” I am soooo excited to stay horizontal all day and read in the sun, then doze, then read, then doze, then read,… guess what comes next?

The reading list is as follows:

  • My Life in France by Julia Child (food, France, dismembered chickens… what’s not to love?)
  • Bumped by Megan McCafferty (her first foray after the Jessica Darling series ended. Read a Bitch interview with her)

Speaking of reading lists… I want to give a shout-out to a cool book lover who, much like me, compulsively tracks her books. Stephanie over at The Conscientious Reader was kind enough to include Rosie Says in her “Week in a Nutshell” post.

She wrote some super nice things, “I found an awesome blog on WordPress…seriously, read it now you will not be disappointed. Anyway, it’s called Rosie Says and is about everything wonderful and feminine and feminist and on point and irreverent. It is my new obsession!” Thanks Stephanie, you’re pretty awesome too!

Look, #4, That's Me!

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Sunday Scraps 13

1. DATING/GEOGRAPHY: An artist joined 20 online dating sites and then created a map called “A More Perfect Union” that maps the United States based on how we describe ourselves in profiles. City names are changed to reflect regional differentiators. New York is “Now,” Chicago is “Always,” Omaha is “Steak.”

2. COMEDY: Is Groupon supporting the next generation of Chicago comic masterminds? Smart Girls, Stupid Things writer Kate reports for WBEZ on the relationship between the Chicago mega-company and the city’s improv community.

3. FOOD: “America Feasts” is a photo series documenting America’s relationship with food, from drive-thrus to BBQs.

4. BOOKS: The Atlantic reports on why adults love apocalyptic young adult fiction. As someone who was recently obsessed with The Hunger Games, I can get on board.

5. THE FRENCH: I’m not usually a super fan of Maureen Dowd, but her column this week about French politics and sexual culture is pretty great. And the title, “Non means Non” isn’t half bad either.

6. EDUMUCATION: How relevant is student testing to measuring teacher performance? I don’t know. You probably don’t know. But here are a ton of smart people talking about it, which is pretty much about the most I can ask right now.

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