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Navigating the Minefield of Misogyny on the Way to Happy Town

Man, people are already coming out of the woodwork with comments on my latest for Role/RebootI love when this happens!

I haven’t written about porn in a while, but when I do, it always starts some interesting (and often heated) conversations. It usually boils down to drawing clear lines between pornography (the recording of sex acts) and the porn industry (an often gross and misogynistic entity that, as a whole, perpetuates damaging myths about sexuality and gender). This creates a fun dynamic wherein one must traverse the latter in order to find some of the former that you actually want to watch, hence the title of this post.

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Sunday Scraps 97

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1. GENDER: Remember when Anita Sarkeesian at Feminist Frequency got seriously harassed by the internet? The fruits of her labor are now available in the form of part 1 of her exploration of gender in video games.

2. RACE: W. Ralph Eubanks at the American Scholar explores what happens to conceptions of race when DNA tests prove your origins diverge from your sense of self.

3. PORN: Here’s a profile of porn entrepreneur Cindy Gallop (of Make Love Not Porn) from Vice. I think there’s a reason we don’t watch regular people have sex, but I wish her all the luck in the world if she can change some of the most offensive porn norms.

4. PUNDITS: Ta-Nehisi Coates invariably blows me away with everything he writes. The New York Observer tracks Coates’ rise to intellectual stardom.

5. PRETTY: Smithsonian Magazine’s best photos of 2012.

6. NAMES: Nico Lang writes for Thought Catalog about what happens when his readers can’t tell whether he’s male or female and how that changes their reactions to his pieces. I wish I had written this, but Emily is kind of an obvious name….

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Pink Ribbon Domination

You’ve seen the NFL fields covered in pink, the yogurt tops, the teddy bears, and the sky scraper light displays, but here’s a new edition to the canon of October’s pink ribbon domination. I present to you without comment:

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Meet my favorite body-positive pornographic tumblr

Consider this a bridgebuilding post. Yesterday, I wrote about body positivity, fat pride, and the fake cult of “real woman-ness” on Role/Reboot. Next week, I’m planning a piece about the idea of “joyful porn.” Today, linking these two ideas, I want to introduce you to my favorite body-positive, pornographic tumblr.

[This is going to get NSFW if you keep scrolling. Consider yourself warned]

“Joyful porn” is a concept I’ve thought about a lot but have never been able to label with a catchy handle until Caitlin Moran helped me find the words. If you watch porn, which I do (Fun fact: 1/3 of porn is viewed by women), you know that most of what’s out there is shit. Instead of creativity, you find repetition and regurgitation. Instead of playful, you get mechanical. Instead of spontaneous, you get scripted, in both dialogue and action. Anybody who’s ever had sex knows that the kind of sex you have and the kind of sex you usually see are so dissimilar that it seems strange to call them both “sex.”

An Unnnhhh example

There are exceptions of course, the kind many of us spend too much time trying to find, and that’s part of what I’ll be addressing next week*. In the meantime, I want to introduce you to a tumblr I’m really enjoying called Unnnhhh. Try saying it out loud.

Unnnhhh was created by a friend to share his porn collection, except that “porn” doesn’t really begin to convey the variety, diversity, and incredible range of the images (and occasional gifs) he’s offering up.

On the surface, it’s a bunch of naked ladies, except sometimes they’re not naked, and sometimes they’re just paintings, and sometimes they’re wearing costumes, and sometimes all you can see is an elbow, or an ankle, or mess of leg hair.  A postcard of vintage erotica, followed by a female bodybuilder, followed by an androgynous pixie in a tux, followed by an amateur fat girl taking her own picture in the bathroom mirror, followed by an anime chick with saucer eyes, followed by a leather-bound woman pegging a dude, followed by a page from a mod 60s catalogue, followed by an ode to hairy armpits.

The point is that variety is sexy, and sex appeal is not limited to the hairless, balloon-breasted, pancake-make-uped porn stars that encapsulate the modern perception of what constitutes of erotica. Nor is it limited to the celebrities that grace our magazine covers or the Victoria’s Secret models striking a pose on the side of city busses. I think it does something pretty awesome to our brain, oversexed as they are, to see this incredible array of images in a row. It scrambles our preconceived notions of what is beautiful, what is alluring, what is sexy.

If you’ve scrolled this far you’re about to see a smattering of the Unnnhhh content, much of which is NSFW, but I think that only the juxtaposition of images will actually convey just how powerful such a juxtaposition can be:

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Sunday Scraps 48

1. OCCUPY: Guest post at Sociological Images by Celia Emmelhainz on the rhetoric of luck in the national conversation about the OWS movement. What and who do we consider “lucky,” and why?

2. ADELE: Love this Vogue interview with Adele mostly because they abstain from discussing her body and instead focus on interesting stuff like why she’s a great girlfriend and her thing for Alec Baldwin.

3. WRITING: Jonathan Lethem in Harpers on the question of intellectual copyright. We all borrow, he says, and that’s a good thing. How ironic is it that Disney, one of the biggest cultural appropriaters or all time, guards their content with such zeal? Also, the end notes may just be the best part.

4. LIBRARY: Phonebooths as mini-libraries. Let’s take outdated technology and convert it into storage for additional outdated technology! Adorable!

5. ART: NextLevel Squad does something called a “Zilla March” through the NYC Subway system. There are gas masks, double-jointed shoulders, and some very confused commuters.

6. PORN: Thought Catalog has an interview with one of my favorites, feminist/queer pornographer Tristan Taormino.

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Behind the Scenes at a Porn Studio

I bought a Groupon for a porn studio facilities tour.

Let me back up…. Remember porn star James Deen? So when I was doing my “research” for that interview (I guess I don’t need quotes, I really was doing research), I read a lot about Kink.com, one of the umbrella companies that he works for. Most Kink.com videos (and their site is obviously NSFW) begin with an external shot of a scary looking medieval building.

A few weeks ago, I was flipping through San Francisco Groupons, and lo and behold, there was that giant brick building! Groupon was indeed selling discounted porn studio tours. Win! I talked two of my very brave friends into accompanying me last week, and the photos you see below come from our 90-minute tour (Disclaimer: There’s no actual porn here, but the images are of porn sets, props, and some seriously NSFW artwork. So…. use your discretion?)

The tour was a fascinating mix of architectural notes on the century-old building, neighborhood sociology of the changing patterns of the Mission, and behind-the-scenes fun facts about the sets, props, policies, and personnel at Kink.com. For example, Kink employs 100 people not counting all the models and actresses. They pad the floors and finish them with faux-wood for the models’ comforts. Sparkling clean facilities are aged and grungified with paint and fake rust to make it look like sketchville, despite a higher OSHA rating than the average San Francisco restaurant.

Here’s a few of my favorite photos, but the whole (non-pornographic but decidedly NSFW photo set is here at Flickr):

Interesting costume tidbits lurked everwhere

You never know when you need a lifesize hampster wheel

Lots of porn means LOTS of lube....

The basement was the rifle range for the National Guard

Bottom line, if you’re in San Francisco and you can stomach some porn-talk, the Armory tour is well worth your time!

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Why I’m MIA (blame it on Kink.com)

So I’ve been MIA for a few days touristing around San Francisco with some friends. We did many a wonderful thing, but get excited for a post in the next few days on the highlight of my trip: a tour of kink.com’s The Armory.

Kink is a mega porn empire that shoots all sorts of BDSM and fetish porn, but it’s also known as a leader in the movement for “ethically created” porn (in terms of their policies on consent, transparency, etc.) They occupy a giant brick castle in the Mission (SFW wiki link) that used to house the National Guard until the 1970s. The building was abandoned for decades, until Kink purchased it in 2006. Though I have no idea how the transaction played out, the idea of the former National Guard barracks (a historical landmark, no less) being transformed into dungeon sets for kinky pornographers makes me smile.

Stay tuned for pictures!

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The Unexpected Sexualization of Halloween

I know what you’re thinking. At this point there’s nothing unexpected about the sexualization of Halloween. Every year, parents pen the requisite outraged editorials about slutty nurse costumes for 8-year-olds and Jezebel publishes their favorite sexy costumes (this year’s winner? In my mind, it’s a toss-up between Slutty Nemo and Slutty Watermelon). Grown women fight over mid-riff baring latex costumes and uniformed workers nationwide roll their eyes at the slutification of their chosen professions. This much is decidedly past expected and has veered into old-news.

But this, this I have never seen before:

A pornographic pumpkin carving kit. Who knew?

And no, I did not purchase it. Yet.

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Guess Who I Interviewed? Hint, You’ve Seen Him Naked.

This week, on The Good Men Project, I had the distinct pleasure of interviewing porn star James Deen. I guarantee you this would be fun for anybody, but if you’ve been paying attention, you know I may be operating under the influence of a slight crush.

While everyone else was watching the World Cup penalty kick showdown, I was chatting with Deen while he putzed around his apartment, killing spiders and doing laundry. Read the whole profile for our conversation about feminism, professionalism, and the behind-the-scenes of consent on porn sets.

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Phoenix: Before and After

Earlier this week, I published an article summarizing my thoughts on porn (especially as it fits, or doesn’t, into relationships) for The Good Men Project. The comments went ballistic (many were longer than my essay), but at least no one said “I hate you,” like they did to Hugo. Sheesh.

One of the notes I liked the most while interviewing folks for the GMP post was Gretchen’s, about being inspired by real-looking porn stars, ones with “flaws” and everything.

As usual, I was reading pornstar James Deen’s blog (most definitely NSFW) and, as usual, there’s a picture of a naked lady. Except, not like usual, because this lady, Phoenix Marie, was snapped before she made it to hair and make-up. Here’s what she looked like:

Phoenix Marie, before

She’s certainly attractive, and the platinum hair speaks to porn convention, but to Gretchen’s point… she looks like a real person. Someone you might see on the train or in line at the grocery story. Not so once she comes out of hair and make-up:

Phoenix Marie, after

It’s too bad. I liked her better before.

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