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Sunday Scraps 97

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1. GENDER: Remember when Anita Sarkeesian at Feminist Frequency got seriously harassed by the internet? The fruits of her labor are now available in the form of part 1 of her exploration of gender in video games.

2. RACE: W. Ralph Eubanks at the American Scholar explores what happens to conceptions of race when DNA tests prove your origins diverge from your sense of self.

3. PORN: Here’s a profile of porn entrepreneur Cindy Gallop (of Make Love Not Porn) from Vice. I think there’s a reason we don’t watch regular people have sex, but I wish her all the luck in the world if she can change some of the most offensive porn norms.

4. PUNDITS: Ta-Nehisi Coates invariably blows me away with everything he writes. The New York Observer tracks Coates’ rise to intellectual stardom.

5. PRETTY: Smithsonian Magazine’s best photos of 2012.

6. NAMES: Nico Lang writes for Thought Catalog about what happens when his readers can’t tell whether he’s male or female and how that changes their reactions to his pieces. I wish I had written this, but Emily is kind of an obvious name….

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Are You Laughing at the Right Jokes?

jimmyDo you ever feel like you’re laughing and other people are laughing but y’all aren’t laughing at the same thing?

Last week I saw a play called The Motherfucker with the Hat (starring my fake boyfriend Jimmy Smits aka Matt Santos). The play is set in New York and follows a guy named Jackie returning from a stint in prison and facing parole, a potentially cheating girlfriend and a whole lot of AA work ahead of him.  In the staging we saw, all of the characters were Latino (though apparently Chris Rock has also done this show.)

I enjoyed the show, but I left feeling a little discomfited by the experience of sitting in white audience (mostly older people) who didn’t seem to get the jokes but did seem to find some of the language/accents/attitudes hilarious. Sometimes we would all laugh, and I thought we were laughing at a great line, and it felt like they were laughing at the sassy Latina snapping her fingers… I can’t prove that’s what was happening, but there were certainly moments where the line was NOT funny, and they were still laughing…

In the liner notes, the Artistic Director wrote:

“I think what Stephen (playwright) is up to in the play is that he is creating people who may seem different from the ones sitting next to us in the theater but who become, over the course of the play, deeply human, deeply familiar and deeply sympathetic. And the canny wisdom in that method is that we are able to recognize that the fundamental questions we all negotiate–most especially, our responsibility in love and the ethics of our relationships: how we carry ourselves in the world–are not exclusively to those of us with cultural capital.”

behindMan, I totally love that sentiment. I just finished two non-fiction books, Random Family by Adrien Nicole Leblanc and Behind the Beautiful Forevers by Katherine Boo, that really drove home this point. It sounds kitschy and sentimental, but stories about being human (loving, grieving, striving, wanting, hurting, believing, etc) are transferrable, and cultural differences only affect our ability to empathize as much as we let them. Both of these books are about folks with very little cultural capital and share very little tangible common ground with me (Puerto Rican drug-dealing teenagers and impoverished families in a Mumbai slum, respectively), but the stories were told so well, so empathetically told, so truthfully told, that I connected viscerally to the “characters.”

Unfortunately, I came out of this Motherfucker play feeling like the surface details (the accent, the swearing, the “Papi,” and the blowjob references) distracted the audience from the core story of these five people dealing with some shit. It’s not the writer’s fault; the shit was transferrable, I think, if the viewers had let it be. The questions the play was asking and answering were applicable to these characters, to Coco and Jessica in Random Family, to Asha and Manju in Beautiful Forevers, to Emily and the Steppenwolf audience in Chicago. It just didn’t seem like people were there looking for stories about human commonality as much as they were there to be titillated by a play with “fuck” in the title. Maybe I’m wrong. I hope I’m wrong, but the laughter in all the wrong places suggests I’m at least a little bit right, and that’s really too bad.

Related Post: Some facts about my reading habits. 

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The Best Things I Read on the Internet, 2012

Like last year, I’m doing a Best Things I read on the Internet list. This is obviously in no way complete or comprehensive, it is merely a tiny slice of the internet that I really enjoyed and I hope you enjoy too.

  • How to Slowly Kill Yourself and Others in AmericaGawker (Kiese Laymon): I’ve read this essay about violence and race and home and promise so many times. There are phrases I’m sure will stick with me forever, “I’m a waste of writing’s time,” and “I wish I could get my Yoda on right now and surmise all this shit into a clean sociopolitical pull-quote that shows supreme knowledge and absolute emotional transformation, but I don’t want to lie.”
  • “Can You Call a 9-Year-Old a Sociopath?”New York Times (Jennifer Kahn): In the wake of Sandy Hook, this investigation of psychopathy in children hits particularly hard. How early can you identify the traits of psychopathy, and what do you do about it?
  • “Expectations”The New Yorker (Katherine Boo): This is the story of the uneasy relationship between an aspiring politician, Michael Bennet, and a high school on the edge of disfunction (or maybe over it?) in Denver. We talk about turnaround schools, benchmarks, races to the top, but what does that actually look like reflected back in the faces of teenagers?
  • “The Last Tower”Harpers (Ben Austen) – For you Chicagoans, or those who wish to be Chicagoans, the towers of Cabrini-Green hold a particular and problematic place in our recent history. I walk by the remains of them every day. How did they start? Where they wrong from the beginning? Could they have been saved? Should they have been saved?
  • “Transformation and Transcendance: The Power of Female Friendship”The Rumpus (Emily Rapp): I hate, hate, hate the title of this essay if only because of how many potential readers might be turned off by it’s hippie-dippy enlightenment vibe. It’s so amazing and fantastic that I want every single person to read it. This was the first thing I ever read of Rapp’s, and I’ve been hooked since.
  • “Click and Drag”xkcd (Randall Munroe): This isn’t an essay, per se, but I find it profound and delightful nonetheless. In an interactive cartoon, “Click and Drag” is about finding small pleasures, and remembering how much of the world there always is to explore.
  • “Odd Blood: Serodiscordancy, or, Life with an HIV-Positive Partner” - The Atlantic (John Fram): A piece of the HIV puzzle we don’t see exposed very often, “Odd Blood” is a lyrically written account of a relationship in which one partner is HIV-positive and the other is not.

Part 2 coming later this week!

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Some Facts About My Reading Habits

It’s that time of year for Best Of lists, some which I’ll be doing later this month. The ones that always cause me anxiety are the book lists, because they force me to admit that I will never, no matter how hard I try, read all of the things worthy of being read. It’s some nerd version of FOMO, I think, and it makes me hyperventilate with literary desire.

This is not going to read a list of the best things I read this year, but for what it’s worth, my favorites were The Art of Fielding (Chad Harbach), Cloud Atlas (David Mitchell), The Tiger’s Wife (Tea Obreht), The Essential Dykes to Watch Out For (Alison Bechdel), and Drown (Junot Diaz). Obviously, most of these weren’t even written this year, that’s how much I can’t keep up.

Instead of a straight-up list, I’d like to take the opportunity to turn a critical, data-driven eye on my own reading habits (woooo! data!) Who do I read? Who don’t I read? We could get real specific, but here’s how it breaks down in broad categories for my thus-far-in-2012 reading list:

Gender Books

Race Books

A few other notes:

15% of the authors I read this year are openly queer

48% are under 50, 44% are over 50, 8% are dead

23% were not born in the United States

Perhaps most surprising to me, 55% of what I read this year was non-fiction, with about half of that being straight-up memoir. Who’d have thought?

The point of anything like this (whether it’s analyzing women in the boardroom data or percentage of black women on television) is not to just through some charts up and be all “BOOM! DATA!” The point is take a closer look at our sources of information. For me, much of my perspective on the world comes from what I read (both on and off the internet). If everything I read is white and straight, well, I think it’s safe to say I’m limiting myself.

That said, I’m pretty happy with this, though perhaps the non-white section of my reading list could be beefed up a bit. That’s a sourcing problem as much as anything else, right? Where do I get my recommendations? Book blogs (mostly by white people), my bookish friends (most of whom are white), and book reviews (mostly by white reporters about white authors). So…. who’s got some recommendations for me?

Related Post: The Vida Method of analyzing gender bias in the media

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Sunday Scraps 79

1. BINDERS: Amanda Hess for Slate makes a similar argument to mine earlier this week, and I’m into it. Binders full of women leads to cabinets full of women. Not an ideal process, not an ideal phrase, but not the wrong idea either.

2. OBAMA: Love this piece by Ta-Nahesi Coates for The Atlantic on the particular burden of carrying his “people.” Cool comparison with a 1936 boxing match in which Joe Lewis was knocked out by Max Shmeling.

3. HARPER: From Letters of Note, an excellent, excellent letter from the reclusive Harper Lee to Oprah Winfrey when O picked Mockingbird for the book club.

4. CLINTONS: How’d the Clinton/Obama relationship evolve from primary bashing to cooperation to Clinton’s epic convention speech? NYMag investigates.

5. SPAIN: What do you do if the country you call home can’t support your kids’ ambitions? Carlos Duarte writes for the Huffington Post about watching his daughter leave Spain in search of more than it can offer her.

6. MARKS: The joy of punctuation. Little-known, lesser-used punctuation marks that never quite hit the mainstream.

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Sunday Scraps 78

1. FRISK: A 17-year-old in New York City secretly recorded two cops harassing him for his race and appearance and threatening to beat him, all part of the legal policy known as “Stop and Frisk” (The Atlantic).

2. WEIGHT: Roxane Gay writes for the Wall Street Journal on how, despite the recent rash of plus-sized women on  screen, their weight is still the punch line to a joke instead of just one feature of many.

3. KISS: You know that famous VJ Day kiss photo? Turns out that the story isn’t quite what we thought it was, and a whole lot less romantic (Mother Jones).

4. INTERWEBZ: Reddit’s #1 creeper (creator of such subreddits as “jailbait” and “creeshots”) was recently outed by Gawker. Given the guy has made his name posting other people’s photos and claiming “if they didn’t want us to see it, they wouldn’t have put it on Facebook,” it seems ironic that he’s so pissed about being exposed. Dude, if you didn’t want people to know you’re a creeper, don’t be a creeper.

5. GIRLS: This week’s International Day of the Girl had the likes of Melinda Gates, Christiane Amanpour and Oprah offering advice to their 15-year-old selves.

6. INIGO: Homeland standout Mandy Patinkin was interviewed by NPR about the 25th anniversary of The Princess Bride. He said, “My name is Inigo Montoya, you killed…”

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Six Sides of “Identity”

It’s Chicago Ideas Week here in the Windy City, which means our fair and not-yet-frigid town is full of who’s whos and big wigs. We’ve got mayors and dignitaries, writers, artists, poets, scientists, actors and activists.

Today a coworker stopped by my desk and asked me about the panel I saw yesterday, “Identity,” and I couldn’t shut up even after it was quite clear he was done listening. There was just so much to discuss! What do I do when I can’t get people to listen to me talk? Write a blog post!

LZ Granderson at Chicago Ideas Week

The panel was about all of the ways we identify ourselves and each other, and through six different speakers I got this incredibly well-rounded view on that thorniest of thorny questions.

LZ Granderson kicked it off with a bit of theater. He’s an ESPN commentator who is a black, gay, Christian, single-dad, former gang member, and current country music devotee. He used a bit of theater (big building blocks with those labels) to physically knock around the idea of identity.

Hanna Rosin (editor of XX at Slate) was next, discussing her book The End of Men. Honestly, she was less crazy than I thought she’d be. As I’ve discovered over and over again on the internet, sometimes the value in an incendiary title weighs more than whether it accurately reflects the piece it titles. Rosin was sharp and funny, and her pitch wasn’t so much about the end of men (dramatic as that sounds), but about how this particular moment in history seems to favor (some) women professionally due to a perfect storm of social, political, and economic trends. In fact, contrary to the end of men, she sees an evolution of masculinity (she cited Chris on Up All Night as an example of a caregiving father who is allowed to maintain his sexual appeal).

I thought that the neuroscientist on the roster would be my snooze break, since scans of brains have never really got me going. Instead, James Fallon turned out to be my favorite presenter. He has spent his life researching brain scans of psychopathic killers, looking for commonalities, which he found. The twist, however, was that Fallon’s own brain shares these patterns. After a battery of psychological tests, it turns out that his own physiological profile is identical to the most famous psychopathic killers in history. How’s that for a nature/nurture argument?

There was an artist, Eric Daigh, that I enjoyed (mostly for how uncomfortable his F-bombs made the older members of the audience), and a forensic researcher (the one and only Brooke Magnanti, formerly known as sex blogger Belle du Jour). He talked about portraiture and the myriad of ways a list of characteristics can be illustrated and animated uniquely, and she discussed the history of forensic identification (did you know that finger prints are not actually unique?)

Related Post: Last year’s Chicago Ideas Week.

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Sunday Scraps 75

1. MOBAMA: Many folks (including me) roll their eyes at Michelle Obama’s self-labeling as “mom-in-chief,” but Tami Winfrey Harris at Clutch explains why a black mom-in-chief is an entirely different story.

2. INK: Yesss, Mental Floss has compiled a gallery of library-themed tattoos, and I want them all.

3. COMICS: This cartoon from Explosm says it all. Gender rolls, lol.

4. HISTORY: What is the GOP position on the Revolutionary War? On slavery? On McCarthy? Jack Hitt at the New Yorker has helpfully assembled a conservative history of America.

5. WORDS: Man, English is the coolest and makes no frickin sense. I love it so much, and so does Ted McCagg, who created a bracketed contest seeking the best word ever.

6. LOVELY: Normally, xkcd is just plain clever, but last week they knocked it out of the park with this delightful, surprising, sweet exploration of everything.

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Sunday Scraps 72

1. ZOE: British Olympian Zoe Smith strikes back at body haters in an extremely articulate and extremely badass blog post.

2. RACE: Nicole Moore at the Huffington Post addresses the recent announcement that Nina Simone will be played by Zoe Saldana and the controversial history of casting famous black women.

3. KATRINA: For the New Yorker’s Letter from Louisiana Katherine Boo reports on one town’s reaction, years later, to Katrina evacuees.

4. WRITING: How do contemporary writers address texting, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, FourSquare, Skype and the like in new fiction? The Millions addresses the “awkward but necessary role of technology in fiction.”

5. WHITE HOUSE: New York Times profiles White House senior advisor Valerie Jarrett on her role in the Obama administration, especially during his courtship of female voters.

6. MEDITATION: Men’s Journal follows one man’s journey into total silence and total boredom in a 10-day meditation course at Dhamma Giri in Western India.

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Monday Scraps 69

1. AMERICANA: Max Fisher at The Atlantic interviews new visitors to the U.S. about what surprises them most. Grocery stores and nursing homes, apparently.

2. RACE: If you read one thing on this list (but I hope you read it all), read Kiese Laymon’s essay “How to Slowly Kill Yourself and Others in America” about race, racism, violence, Mississippi, and 8,000 other things. Content aside, the prose will bowl you over (Gawker).

3. FRIENDS: I love love love this Roxane Gay list of tips on being friends with another woman: 7A: Don’t be totally rude about truth telling and consider how much truth is actually needed to get the job done. Finesse goes a long way. 7B: These conversations are more fun when preceded by an emphatic, ‘GIRL.’”

4. BIKINI: The internet is a strange place. Exhibit A: Matchbook, which pairs bikinis with beach reading by literally matching the pattern of a bikini and the cover a book…

5. WRITING: Chicago writer Megan Stielstra in a lovely essay on finding, or not finding, a room of one’s own in which to work (The Rumpus).

6. OLYMPICS: Divers’ faces while diving. You’re welcome.

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