Last week I joined Molly and Brian on Vocalo’s Feminist Wednesdays to talk about dating while feminist. As usual, it was a blast and a half. What part should gender roles play in modern dating? How much should we rely on traditional who-does-what? Should we just mimic the gays? They seem able to figure this out without pointing at genitalia as the reason one person should or shouldn’t buy the other person dinner…
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Yesterday morning I joined Molly Adams, Brian Babylon, and Siri Bulusu on Vocalo’s morning program to discuss last week’s brouhaha about the CNN iReport article on India and harassment culture. Remember that brouhaha? It was before the Miley brouhaha. We should make a calendar to keep all the brouhahas straight, don’t you think?
If you recall, the issue here is decidedly NOT questioning the author’s personal experience in India, but rather questioning the tone and context of her article. Questions to think about:
- What are our obligations to contextualize our suffering on the scale of greater suffering?
- How much do we need to call out our own privilege to avoid sounding off on the “plight of the white woman”?
- What can we do to condemn harassment, sexual assault and rape without stereotyping an entire nation of men?
- How do we acknowledge the particular problems of one country while simultaneously recognizing that we have similar problems of our own?
- Is it appropriating to relate the trauma of other people who do not have access to the megaphones we have in order to justify our own trauma? Is there a way to do that gracefully and justly?
As always, I enjoy my time with the Morning Amp crew and look forward to future discussions of tricky issues in gender and media.
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In case you missed it, on The Morning AMp this morning the Council on Feminist Thought discussed many important things including Jerry Lewis’ idiocy over female comedians (do you remember Tina Fey’s response? “We don’t fucking care if you like it.”), Roman Polanski’s moronic comments about birth control, and more on celebrity overshares vs. megashares.
Sidenote: Council on Feminist Thought is a badass name. Wish I had come up with that.
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Housekeeping! Tomorrow I’ll be on the radio here in Chicago, though of course you can listen online. The details:
What: Feminist Wednesdays on Morning AMp on Vocalo
When: 9am to 10am central
Where: Listen at vocalo.org or 90.7 if you live in Chicago
Want to participate? Tweet at @TheMorningAMp to ask a question or throw in a comment.
Also, we have a winner! Shani B. won the giveaway! Shani’s got until end of day Wednesday to reply (I sent you an FB message, too, Shani!) If not, we’ll pick another random winner!
Thanks all for your kind words and fun tweets. I learned that a lot of you have interesting favorite colors.
I was on the radio this morning! Spent 20 minutes with Molly Adams and Brian Babylon of Morning Amp talking Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In and why dudes should also be reading this book. Listen below!
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That’s kind of weird title for this post. I know with some people I follow on the interwebs, I’m always surprised to find out what they actually look or sound like. Sometimes they’re a different gender than I thought (ahem, Nico Lang) and I’m all like…whoa…I’ve got biases too!
Anyway, if you’ve been wondering what I sound like when I talk (hint: I have a bit of a Joplin rasp at the moment), tune in tomorrow at vocalo.org around 8:30am CT to me hear me talk some feminism, Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In etc. If you’re in Chicagoland, you can listen at 90.7 or 89.5.
Filed under Chicago, Gender
1. DATING: Where do “missed connections” happen? In Illinois, on the train (duh), in Indiana, at home. Wait, what?
2. AUTHORS: Ugh. Ender’s Game was kind of my favorite thing for so so long. It still is, but I hate when the authors you love turn out to be raging homophobes. Dammit.
3. EDUCATION: This amazing investigative piece by WBEZ on the South Side’s Harper High School is incredible in basically every way journalism can be incredible.
4. KNOPE: NYMag has the inside scoop behind Amy Poehler/Leslie Knope’s amazing wedding dress.
5. SPORTS: For the very first time, a woman is participating in the NFL regional tryouts. Kicker Lauren Silberman will probably not play in the NFL, but that’s still pretty f’ing cool.
6. OSCARS: I would write about Seth McFarlane’s horribly sexist jokes, but Margaret Lyons at NYMag nailed it so hard I’d just be paraphrasing.
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Remember The Guy Friends podcast? I profiled The Guy Friends creators Josh Nalven, Aaron Horton and Kate Dries this week for The Good Men Project. The podcast is all about frank talk on relationships, sex, gender, dating, etc, so it seems a great fit for the GMP.
I listened in on a taping in which we covered unwanted erections, those who just want to cuddle, radio host Delilah and some serious real talk about going after what you want. Post-taping, we chatted about their radio and non-radio influences, what they want to bring to the podcast scene, and Kate’s choices for excellent musical accompaniment.
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1. DISNEY: The most epic Disney a capella medley ever. Costume changes included. Prepare yourself, it’s seven minutes long.
2. TAPE: Artist Max Zorn uses only brown packing tape and a scalpel to make these images.
3. TECH: Geek out with me over this sweet graph tracking browser usage. Watch the life and death of AOL, the rise of Mozilla, and ridiculous longevity of Internet Explorer.
4. SAVAGE: Dan Savage + Ira Glass. Done and done.
5. WHALES: Salon has a fascinating look at the history and veracity of the man-in-whale folklore. Is it possible to come out the other side, as so many myths would suggest?
6. CHOICE: Really excellent essay about why pro-life advocate John Saveland supports Planned Parenthood. Imagine how much further this conversation could go if everyone employed such rationality and logic!
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