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Meet my favorite body-positive pornographic tumblr

Consider this a bridgebuilding post. Yesterday, I wrote about body positivity, fat pride, and the fake cult of “real woman-ness” on Role/Reboot. Next week, I’m planning a piece about the idea of “joyful porn.” Today, linking these two ideas, I want to introduce you to my favorite body-positive, pornographic tumblr.

[This is going to get NSFW if you keep scrolling. Consider yourself warned]

“Joyful porn” is a concept I’ve thought about a lot but have never been able to label with a catchy handle until Caitlin Moran helped me find the words. If you watch porn, which I do (Fun fact: 1/3 of porn is viewed by women), you know that most of what’s out there is shit. Instead of creativity, you find repetition and regurgitation. Instead of playful, you get mechanical. Instead of spontaneous, you get scripted, in both dialogue and action. Anybody who’s ever had sex knows that the kind of sex you have and the kind of sex you usually see are so dissimilar that it seems strange to call them both “sex.”

An Unnnhhh example

There are exceptions of course, the kind many of us spend too much time trying to find, and that’s part of what I’ll be addressing next week*. In the meantime, I want to introduce you to a tumblr I’m really enjoying called Unnnhhh. Try saying it out loud.

Unnnhhh was created by a friend to share his porn collection, except that “porn” doesn’t really begin to convey the variety, diversity, and incredible range of the images (and occasional gifs) he’s offering up.

On the surface, it’s a bunch of naked ladies, except sometimes they’re not naked, and sometimes they’re just paintings, and sometimes they’re wearing costumes, and sometimes all you can see is an elbow, or an ankle, or mess of leg hair.  A postcard of vintage erotica, followed by a female bodybuilder, followed by an androgynous pixie in a tux, followed by an amateur fat girl taking her own picture in the bathroom mirror, followed by an anime chick with saucer eyes, followed by a leather-bound woman pegging a dude, followed by a page from a mod 60s catalogue, followed by an ode to hairy armpits.

The point is that variety is sexy, and sex appeal is not limited to the hairless, balloon-breasted, pancake-make-uped porn stars that encapsulate the modern perception of what constitutes of erotica. Nor is it limited to the celebrities that grace our magazine covers or the Victoria’s Secret models striking a pose on the side of city busses. I think it does something pretty awesome to our brain, oversexed as they are, to see this incredible array of images in a row. It scrambles our preconceived notions of what is beautiful, what is alluring, what is sexy.

If you’ve scrolled this far you’re about to see a smattering of the Unnnhhh content, much of which is NSFW, but I think that only the juxtaposition of images will actually convey just how powerful such a juxtaposition can be:

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Sunday Scraps 62 (Delayed AGAIN on account of flames)

Jeez, this lack of interwebz thing is a real buzz-kill on the blogging front. Hope to back in full-force soon!

1.RACE: Yo, is this racist? Aren’t sure? Post your conundrum for the resident racism-checker to verify. Short answer, if you have to ask, then yes.

2. STORY: Such a great profile of the StoryCorps project by Kim Green. The roving StoryCorps trailer has a full recording studio and gives family and friends an excuse to sit down and tell each other stories.

3. GRAMMAR: Who doesn’t love a little grammar cartoon?

4. SHERYL: The corporate world isn’t a ladder anymore, but a jungle gym. That, and other pearls of wisdom from Sheryl Sandberg’s speech to Harvard Business School.

5. TECH: Ellen Pao is suing a major venture capital firm over sexual harassment. This New York Times article covers the case, but starts with the irritating line “MEN invented the Internet.”

6. AUTHORS: Authors in swimsuits is the theme of this gallery from Flavorwire. Fitzgerald. That is all.

Related Post: Sunday 61 = Lululemon, Facebook improvements, diet-quitters.

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(Belated) Sunday Scraps 33

Fun fact: As a child, I thought “belated” was actually “delated.” It seemed to make an odd sort of linguistic sense, deleted + delayed, right?

1. FACEBOOK: Moms are funny about the interwebs. Here are Bryan’s mom’s voicemails in which she is very concerned about how many friends she has… and this whole “status” thing.

2. ANIMALS: Animals talking in all caps. That is all.

3. PRIDE: I adore this essay about the simple pleasures of coupledom (in honor of Spirit Day) from Lindi at Bettencourt Chase.

4. CLINTON: The people at FunnyOrDie have imagined a secret Clinton Foundation Celebrity Division in which Matt Damon, Ben Stiller, Ted Danson and Kristen Wiig brainstorm top secret Clinton Foundation initiatives. Like a softball team.

5. WORK: Is there any way to take maternity leave and not fall behind? The Globe and Mail seems to think the answer is no.

6. SHOES: Behold.

Related Post: Tiger Beatdown, Feminist Ryan Gosling, beauty shots, and Rolling Stone covers.

Related Post: Jobs, Lewis, Sarkeesian, Ohno, Stewart, Romney.

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Protesting Chicks are HAWT

Earlier this week, I wrote about the sexualization of Halloween (and not just the costumes), and now we’ve got the sexification of something devoid even of costume and camp: Sexy Occupy Wall Street. You read that right. A guy named Steven Greenstreet has made a blog called Hot Chicks of Occupy Wall Street. There’s a video, too.

These women are beautiful, and as Steven says in his “About” letter, “the video, and the voices within, are honorable and inspiring.” Their voices and stories would be just as honorable and inspiring if the faces behind them weren’t so attractive, right?

There’s something about it that gives me icky feelings and I’m having a hard time identifying exactly what. I think it’s a combination of a) the voyeuristic style, and b) the historical tradition of mitigating the impact of women in progressive movements by emphasizing their beauty.

a) The video and the photos both have this peeping tom quality; it’s quite clear that many of the women didn’t know their photos were being taken. Do they know they’re in a gallery of hot protesting girls? Are they cool with that? Also, it’s invasive, stylistically speaking. The cameras are so close to the subjects that makes me feel claustrophobic just to look at.

b) In college, a speaker came to a class I took and told us about her experience at the UChicago sit-in of 1969. She talked about how the female students were encouraged by their male peers to “get with the movement.” So they did, and it turned out that what the guys meant by “get with the movement,” was “get with the dudes in the movement,” and also, “get some coffee.”

Greenstreet’s little site is not so egregious as that, after all, he does calls them “super smart hot chicks being all protesty.” I just want to make sure he knows that all these hot protesting girls didn’t leave their homes this morning with the intention of being the subject of some progressive voyeur’s jerk-off reel. Their purpose in this movement is not to provide eye candy for the male participants, and I sincerely doubt it was to be gawked at by a dude with a camera.

Or, maybe I’m wrong. Perhaps Greenstreet has a stack of signed release forms.

Related Post: Words between friends: my teenage cousins pull out the big guns on Facebook.

Related Post: Disney princess and the word “impregnate.”

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Sunday Scraps 32

1. DREAMY: You’ve probably seen it by now, but just in case, it’s Feminist Ryan Gosling and he’s saying “Hey Girl….”

2. MEDIA: Really cool analysis I wish I’d done on Sociological Images. It maps the sexualization of male vs. female covers of Rolling Stone over the year to show that while everybody’s gotten sexified, the ladies are being outundressed by a long shot.

3. HOLLYWOOD: NYMag is asking where all the up and coming male actors are? Leo, Toby, and Jake had all done huge stuff before they turned 25. Where are their footstep-followers?

4. RACE: Smithsonian digs into the man behind Black Like Me, 50 years after the book hit shelves.

5. BEAUTY: Amazing gallery of images about beauty culture from photography Zed Nelson. Did you know there are more nose jobs done in Iran than any other country?

6. CLASS: Holy cow, this essay about class, gender and personal history in the era of Occupy Wall Street is knock-out. Also, the blog is called Tiger Beatdown, which is pretty outstanding.

Related Post: Sunday 31: Stewart, Sarkeesian, Lewis, Jobs.

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Sunday Scraps 29

1. SPORTS: If, a week ago, you had asked me whether college athletes should be paid, I would have said hell to the no. Then  I read this incredibly long but amazing piece from The Atlantic and did a total 180.

2. CELEB: What would a “burn book” look like if it were written by Suri Cruise? Here’s your answer.

3. FLIGHT: Who doesn’t love an infographic of the evolution of airlines. Split and merge, split and merge.

4. OMAR: Mother Jones interviews my favorite gay gangster, Michael K Williams. By which I mean, my favorite actor who played a gay gangster.

5. GIRLS: Is this what you’d want your daughter coloring in at the pizza parlor?

6. SHORT: Fun essay by Leah Finnegan about the lengths to which vertically challenged people can go to get bigger. If you could control your height, how tall would you be?

Related Post: Jane Lynch, red wine cake, the worst things significant others have ever said.

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Curve Appeal vs. American Apparel’s “Next Big Thing” Contest

This is the picture I keep meaning to submit to Curve Appeal... except my technologically incapable self can't find the "Submit" Button. Sigh.

Today, I found a Tumblr called Curve Appeal that fits with yesterday’s theme of un-retouched photos of women’s bodies*. On it, women and girls post pictures of themselves and include anecdotal notes about their figures (“I’m finally starting to realize that I don’t have to be a size 0 to be fashionable”) or quantitative data about their measurements. The creator writes, “I think it is so important for girls and women to have a realistic point of reference to look up to!” I couldn’t agree more; realistic points of reference in the media are few and far between.

At the moment, there’s a number of submissions from girls who are competing in the plus-size model competition for American Apparel, which I do NOT appreciate nearly as much. I don’t blame them for wanting to be publicly recognized as attractive. After all, it’s an acknowledgment that lots of larger women don’t get on a regular basis. That being said, I really don’t like the ranking/rating system of the American Apparel contest. Pitting body vs. body is good for no one. Also, their press release was insulting and full of terrible puns (and I usually love terrible puns).

Each of the American Apparel contestants gets to post a little blurb about themselves. There are tons along the lines of “Real women have curves!” Again, I get that this is coming from the desire to attach positivity to something that is often treated with disdain or disrespect, but there is no more “real” body type than any other. Attaching femininity to a particular body part does nobody any good. Why do we have to undermine other bodies to make us feel good about our own? Real women have bodies. That’s about as much as I’m willing to say.

*Curve Appeal also includes photos of plus-size models from catalogs and runways. I don’t think this diminishes the value of the rest of the non-airbrushed photos.

Related Post: Tyra calls plus-size models “fiercely real.” What?

Related Post: Phoenix Marie before and after make-up. Which do you like better?

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Guest Post: The Safe Word is “Cosmo”

There are many, many Kates in my life (seven in my phone, not counting Katies). Today, one of them (not this one) has kindly volunteered a guest post on Cosmo, kink, and sexual honesty.

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There was an article in the April 2011 edition of Cosmo about “the kinky sex trick you secretly want to try.” Turns out, the kinky sex trick is handcuffs and blindfolds. Not very new ground for Cosmo to cover, but I’ll forgive them that. What I won’t forgive is the way they approach the subject.

As someone who is generally very open about my sex life, I don’t think there is much to be ashamed of in the way of sexual preferences. Kinky, gay, poly, however you want to describe and act out your sex life is fine by me. I don’t think that anybody has a right to judge anybody else on what they want in bed (within legal limits). So when Cosmo–while discussing handcuffs–mentions that S&M has a “skanky rep” and that you need to be careful so your boyfriend doesn’t think you’re “actually sadistic,” it rubbed me the wrong way.

My interpretation is that they’re saying, “Sure, it’s okay to be ‘kinky-lite’ (their words, not mine) but anything more than that and you’re in danger of scaring off your companion.” And you should definitely not talk about “heavy bondage or dungeons and whips.” That’s not light-hearted enough. Now, I am all for introducing more people to fun things to do in the bedroom, but what about the girl who is curious about bondage? She’s going to get the message that isn’t something a guy would be interested in, or even that she might scare him away. There has got to be a way to talk about a certain kind of sex without talking negatively about other practices.

Maybe they feel the types of people who are actually sadistic are not reading their articles, likely because somebody who is into more heavier S&M probably graduated from handcuffs and blindfolds a long time ago. But there is nothing wrong with wanting to explore many different avenues in your sex life. When you have a partner you trust, you should be able to talk about anything without the fear of being embarrassed or deserted. And that is the message these types of articles should be sending: the idea that you can approach your significant other about anything, because there is nothing wrong with expressing what you want, no matter what it is. Besides, if my partner didn’t at least want to hear my fantasies, he’d be gone faster then you could say “dungeons and whips.”

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This Kate and I met in a gender studies class in college (taught by a Katie, of course). Our pint-sized class quickly grew close, and on the eve of our final deadline we all landed in the A-level of the library scrambling to finish our papers and chowing down on a pound and a half of Swedish Fish.  You can read more of her stuff at her tumblr, Kate Likes to Complain.

Related Post: A quite explicit (you’ve been warned…) guest post from Matty C. (SFW).

Related Post: This piece from The Atlantic perpetuates the problem that Kate described above; it purports that any non-vanilla sex is somehow not what women want in relationships.

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