Hey y’all, happy pre-Thanksgiving! Are your offices quiet? Are your thoughts on pie and next-day turkey sandwiches? Are you dreading obnoxious relatives or looking forward to the rare chance to play with cute kids? Football? Parades? What ever your TGiving jam is, I hope you’re feeling it.
Cool news to share with you today. You guys know XOJane, right? Founded by Jane Pratt (read this excellent profile about the “perpetual 15-year-old”), XOJane is one of the many of the many lady-sites out there for the media-consuming millennial girl. Today, one of those pieces of media is mine. It’s an essay that I wrote last year (originally for The Good Men Project, which was later reposted on Jezebel), called You Can Get Laid without Being a Jerk, effectively a letter to my brother and his college bros about hook-up culture, douche moves, and enthusiastic consent:
I loved this piece and spread it around facebook and the twitter. We talk so much about changing the discourse on rape and rape culture and making men aware of and responsible for their actions, but I feel like we often fail to get to the how and what to do. This letter to your college-aged brother nails it so perfectly.